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Rape Fantasy February 11, 2006

Posted by ascendingnode in sex and sexuality.
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I was reading this week’s Carnival of the Feminists and came across the old argument about what “sex-positive” feminism is and whether sex-positive feminists are merely shills for the male gaze. One of the posts linked is arguing for sex-positive feminism and discusses whether the idea that women have “rape fantasies” is a myth or not. She writes,

[The] claim that these fantasies are tantamount to women “getting moist about people raping them” is based on the reality of rape, rather than the idealized power play that the fantasizers wish to interact with. After all, a fantasy is, by definition, something not real… [W]hen people (sex-positive feminists or otherwise) talk about ‘rape fantasies’ they are talking about role playing between consenting adults.

Of course, that’s true. Nobody really wants to be raped; if they wanted it to happen then it would cease to be rape. But when we talk about the myth of rape fantasies, what we’re trying to say is that women are not fantasizing about real, actual rape so we should stop saying that we are. Because every time we say that every woman has a rape fantasy, we reinforce the idea that when women say “no” they don’t necessarily mean it. We are helping to lend credence to the date-rapist’s “but women have rape fantasies so how am I to know what she meant by ‘no’” defense.

We don’t fantasize about rape. We might fantasize about “hot sex with a hot stranger” or “rough role-playing with the partner” or “being held down during sex”. But calling it a “rape fantasy” only serves to romanticize rape and to further the rape culture.

Churlish Feminism ahoy! January 28, 2006

Posted by ascendingnode in anti-feminism.
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Twisty mentions a lovely peach of a guy whose blog seems to focus largely on telling feminists not to be so mean all the time. That, and how horrifyingly disturbing Bitch Ph.D.‘s banner image is.

One of my favorite posts is this one, where he’s distressed over how mean and angry those wicked feminists are. Oh, wahhhh. One sign reads, “Keep your laws off my body, and I’ll keep my hands off your throat!”

Threats of violence: OK for GWB, “Churlish” for feminists!

And remember, being polite and civil is what really helped women advance their cause.

Hello world! January 27, 2006

Posted by ascendingnode in meta.
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Hello, world! Welcome to Ascending Node. As it says in the header graphic, “ascending node” is an astronomy term meaning “the point in the orbit of an object when it crosses the ecliptic whilst moving south to north”. I picked this as the title of my blog mainly because it has a nice ring to it: it flows nicely from the tongue and implies someone who is coming up in the world. I also chose it because I am interested in becoming a Physicist when I grow up.

I’m 23, a woman, a feminist, and determined to ascend in this world.

Thanks for visiting.

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